Talanoa is a research tool widely used by Pasifika researchers to conduct their research. Generally, talanoa means an “open conversation”. As a Tongan male, I have found the use of talanoa complex both in Tonga and New Zealand. I have found it difficult to use talanoa like an interview. Interviews are structured and systematic. Talanoa however, is not an interview. I’m grappling with the use of this method in collecting and organising the stories from my participants.